Building confidence and leadership skills through martial arts….
Growing up with a Japanese martial arts back ground (Karate and Jiu-Jitsu)was great for me and helped me become the martial artist, and person I am today. The Japanese embody the martial arts lifestyle with an extreme focus on excellence.(This is not to say other disciplines don’t focus on many similar practices, but that wasn’t my original path mine was Japanese).
The good schools follow that same practice, focusing on technique, discipline, striving for perfection. Rather then believe you can’t, the martial artist are taught to believe they just have not gotten to that level yet. Martial arts is a journey and takes years to master. It isn’t so much about the destination but the journey. Of course we all want black belts and thats a good thing, but there are no short cuts in martial arts. In order to perfect these techniques it takes focus, determination, and perseverance. There will be many days a martial artist goes home feeling defeated. We are forced to accept these feelings,analyze what went wrong continue on our journey and not be deterred. These are life building skills essential for growth.
These days I have noticed many well meaning parents try and shelter our children from experiencing these feelings. In my opinion thats the worst thing we can do. We need setbacks to grow as people, as leaders, they are a part of life . If you prune a shrub it comes back fuller stronger and more complete. Are we so different? Being put under pressure is part of the Martial arts lifestyle. Its how we learn to respond thats important. As we grow in the martial arts we begin to learn what we once thought was impossible is now just a distant memory. Overcoming adversity both mentally and physically builds true confidence and teaches us the keys to victory.. Whether on the mats or cage or in life. How many of you wouldn’t agree the person who has been in the situation before will generally be the most level headed?
A martial artist is also taught after a time to pass down their knowledge to the lower ranked students behind them. Teaching others whats been passed down to them and guiding younger martial artists so that they can avoid the mistakes they have made. Not only are they developing leadership skills but a much deeper understanding of the martial arts. In order to teach martial arts you must truly understand them. As you teach you learn, and have new challenges and the growth continues. Good Gyms and Dojos tell you to check your ego at the door but in the event you don’t. This process i just described has a funny way of checking it for you. Egos don’t last long because there isn’t room for them in a real martial artist life. They only hinder growth. I have seen many people drop out including pro fighters who let their ego get the best of them. Once this happens you begin to think you have nothing to learn.. One great thing about martial arts is you can never take it put in your pocket and say done there is always more to learn, keeping you humble. Go to any typical fitness gym you’ll see many muscle bound guys staring at themselves in the mirror strutting around .
I personally believe that behavior exhibits a lack of confidence my Gym for instance Rock M.M.A. is full of smiles, hand shakes, and a good sense of humor. These men and women have very little ego. They are well trained martial artists, in great shape and fully capable of intimidating someone but they don’t. Why? They have a great self belief in their abilities and are aware of what is possible because they have been tested many times in training and if need be know they can handle most situations.Its probably to a point where most of them don’t really think of why they are all so easy going and helpful. Its been ingrained in them over time and its a culture.
The coaches and higher ranking members behave in this manner so the new ones follow suit.. We are serious about learning and becoming the best martial artists in the world but we enjoy the process at the same time. If you think martial arts sounds like your path or you have any questions about this blog feel free to reach out to me directly Carl @ 754-422-9869 or @firstname.lastname@example.org God Bless.
Created: 03/23/15 at 8:35 PM